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Your own Mirror of Erised

Your Own Mirror Of Erised

Your own Mirror of Erised

Before you read my post, please read this over at Chuck Wendig’s blog. His guest blogger today is Steven Spohn, and the post is brave, inspiring and heartfelt. I hope you read it, then tell a friend, or twenty, because Steven’s words need to be heard by every person.

Steven asked each person who read his post to do the following:

We all have things that we have wanted to do for a long time but there’s always an excuse, a reason something doesn’t get done. Instead of posting sadness for my derelict thumb, I want you to do the following:

Post TWO (2) things you always wanted to do but never got around to starting, and promise me you’re going to start now.

I’ve been pondering this for the last thirty minutes. What do I want to do, my fondest desire, my deepest wish? Being a Harry Potter fangirl, the Mirror of Erised popped into my head. In the book Harry Potter and the Philosopher’s Stone, Professor Dumbledore says:

The happiest man on earth would be able to use the Mirror of Erised like a normal mirror, that is, he would look into it and see himself exactly as he is.

I don’t know about you, but, although I consider myself a happy person, I wouldn’t look in that mirror and see myself exactly the way I am, and I suspect none of us would. We all have dreams unfulfilled, wants and hopes we keep sweeping under the rug. Tomorrow, tomorrow, tomorrow. Steven Spohn has asked us to make tomorrow today.

When I dig deep, and ask myself for two things I’ve always wanted to do, many ideas turn up. Truth is, I want to do about a thousand things. So, let’s pretend I’m looking into Dumbledore’s mirror, what do I see? I think number one on my list of fondest dreams is one I may never accomplish, but, I am going to list it anyway.

I want to adopt a child.

But not an infant. Don’t get me wrong, I love babies, but I’ve been blessed with the task of raising two beautiful girls from infancy. I’ve also taken care of dozens of tiny people (and changed about a million diapers) so I am kind of “babied out”. My goal is to adopt an older child, a teen in crisis for example. I read an article recently that there are many LGBT teens in need of homes because they’ve been abandoned by their families. How soul crushing is that? I want to take them all in, and if I had room, I would.

Being adopted myself, this is something I’ve always wanted to do. The time has never been right, and it still isn’t, but, can I make changes that will help me get to where I need to be to accomplish this? I think I can, and I promise I will start. Today.

My second wish? I want to do something that will help victims of sexual abuse.

Whether I write a book, start a foundation or something similar, this is near and dear to my heart. After sharing my own story, so many people reached out to me, offering support and kind words. I want to pay it forward. And I’m going to start working towards this goal. Today.

How about you? What are your fondest desires? I would love to hear from you. If you write a post of your own, please link it back here. I am going to leave you with one more quote, from a silly movie called Kung Fu Panda. Because even silly stories can punch you right in the heart.




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  1. I love all of this so much. Imaging looking into the mirror of Erised is so perfect… It totally helps me see what I want more clearly. And I have to say, I think your goals are absolutely beautiful. Don’t ever let them go!! I’ve always wanted to adopt a child. Maybe someday I’ll be able to. For me, having been through abuse and suicidal and survived, I feel this major pull at my heart to try and help at least one person through my writing. If I can help just one person find hope and strength enough to get through their dark days, I’ll have succeeded. And I want to live in Spain, and help my children be everything they want to be in life. Man I’d have a lot of stuff staring back at me in that mirror. Best get started today!

    PS Isn’t Kung Fu Panda one of the greatest movies ever made?! I bawl every time I watch it!

    1. Thank you so much for your lovely comments! And big hugs from one survivor to another! Your wish to help others shows your inner strength, which in turn, inspires others to find their strength. That positive energy comes back to you, it’s a wonderful circle of healing.

      Yes, I love Kung Fu Panda, too! And I always cry, every time!

      All the hugs!



  2. Your goals are, as always with you, breathtaking in how much love and determination you invest in trying to make things better for others and helping others to turn it around. You are fucking awesome.

  3. I loved Stephen’s post, thanks for sharing it.
    There are so many things I want to do, both selfish and to help others. I’m trying to decide on which two are the most important 🙂
    One thing that is really important to me is the issue of mental health. I’ve trained as a mentor and advocate for those recovering from mental health issues, but unfortunately my own health problems over the last couple of years have meant I’m not in a position to help anyone else. I still write and Tweet about mental health and anything else I feel strongly about because I think it’s so important to raise awareness about things, reduce stigma and let others know they aren’t alone.
    Now to think about the second thing 🙂

    1. You’re welcome, Dawn, Steven’s post was just the thing I needed today, happy to share.

      I think you are helping more people than you realize. Writing and tweeting about mental health is a huge thing, imagine how many people you reach by doing that. Never feel like you’re not doing enough, even one kind word can change someone’s life! xoxox

  4. Another wonderful post Oleander – your goals are perfect. You will achieve them I know it. I think the fact that you have shared your own story of sexual abuse survival you have already helped so so many people – so your second goal is well underway.
    King Fu Panda – fantastic. Cry every time (and there has been many times… inner peace…)
    This might sound lame but I have affirmation cards – (not the cards – they work – I have one with “I am a published author” and it came true!) But the goal that always eludes me is to have a clean and tidy house so I don’t want to die when an unexpected visitor arrives! X x x

    1. Thank you, Tabs, you’re the best! I have a book that might help you with your tidy house goal – The Life Changing Magic of Tidying Up by Marie Kondo. Now, I haven’t completely organized my house yet, but I have managed a few dresser drawers and her techniques are amazing. I would highly recommend the book.

      Affirmation cards – I need to look into those, I truly believe in the power of self affirmation! xoxox

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